We cannot control other people's lives...we so cannot control other people's lives. If we try we will fail or else muddle things up dangerously.

The first characteristic about love is that it is patient. But we must have wisdom about where to love with this quality (although we must also let it permeate our lives). "But the greatest of these is love..." Love is patient because love is faith, and hope.

I think humans can derive great joy from the act of loving...or from being loving. To give - without expecting things in return, but just to give - to show the other person how special they are...even just little presents...to understand... - brings great joy.

It is part of being made in the image of God, who is love. We do have a great capacity to love...we derive great joy from loving.

But these are very simple reflections. I will admit there are complexing factors...like sin and our fallen human nature.